So strange Quincunx as I feel I don’t see much negative posts from you…
Most of my negative thinking when younger was most often directed at me, but I was blessed with gentle parents so ihad an easy deal.. then I would say that most of my negative thinking today and the last forty years is related to my mariage , or rather to the man I have lived with. Thankfully these last ten years much of that has eroded. It’s a long internal work. Sometimes you feel pretty heartbroken, but one just keep going. Faith helps, that’s for sure.
One has to find a way to be kinder to oneself.
Fare well Quincunx, don’t doubt you are loved here
On edit I feel I need to say a little more, a little harder since I don’t get too personal often, so it’s a try, lol
So my husband and I have been together for a long time and it’s just that we both evolved in different directions. It’s easy to respect someone”s opinion because we all have different perspectives. But when you live together and personally have committed to stay this way, provided the other person wishes to stay of course this way, and come to an issue where you must both find a solution and decide… this is the friction.
How do you come to term with a solution that you feel is not the way that the issue might resolve ? How you come to accept it, when your little ethics just don’t fall right with it. How do you internally don’t despise, not so much the other one, si ce that’s his perspective, but yourself. Lol, it’s difficult.
And in the end to find peace with it, and you do, but it’s a lot of deep work, lol, living in a cave by yourself meditating seems suddenly lots easier
Most of my negative thinking when younger was most often directed at me, but I was blessed with gentle parents so ihad an easy deal.. then I would say that most of my negative thinking today and the last forty years is related to my mariage , or rather to the man I have lived with. Thankfully these last ten years much of that has eroded. It’s a long internal work. Sometimes you feel pretty heartbroken, but one just keep going. Faith helps, that’s for sure.
One has to find a way to be kinder to oneself.
Fare well Quincunx, don’t doubt you are loved here
On edit I feel I need to say a little more, a little harder since I don’t get too personal often, so it’s a try, lol
So my husband and I have been together for a long time and it’s just that we both evolved in different directions. It’s easy to respect someone”s opinion because we all have different perspectives. But when you live together and personally have committed to stay this way, provided the other person wishes to stay of course this way, and come to an issue where you must both find a solution and decide… this is the friction.
How do you come to term with a solution that you feel is not the way that the issue might resolve ? How you come to accept it, when your little ethics just don’t fall right with it. How do you internally don’t despise, not so much the other one, si ce that’s his perspective, but yourself. Lol, it’s difficult.
And in the end to find peace with it, and you do, but it’s a lot of deep work, lol, living in a cave by yourself meditating seems suddenly lots easier
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