speaking straightly to the topic of this very thread, I would like to share with you, my friends, a very important occurrence in my life and want to here your opinions on that.
I am 26 years old now and it was at this age that I found out that my mother married my father when I was 4 years old, meaning that I have a different biological father. probably the most shocking news in my life at this time!
How it happened was relevant, and happened for a reason.
Up to this moment, I was feeling contempt for my father because of his abuse of alcohol, violence towards my mother, and severe education towards my younger brother and me, and all the violent quarrels in the family.
This year I was in Tampa, Florida interning in hospitality management, away from my parents, and away from my wife whom I missed so much. So one day, while talking with my wife on skype, she finally revealed the biggest ever secret to me about having a biological father. My wife then said that she new that for a year and she could not keep it a secret any longer from me, thinking that my mother will tell me that personally which actually I learned she was not even ready and thinking to divulge it to me.
After days of pondering and contemplation, I realized that me being alone in USA, away from my parents, I could not have gotten it better from anyone else than my wife whom I love with all my heart. I reacted with maturity.
I realized I was full of prejudices in evaluating the stumbling relationships in my family. I learned that my current father loved me much at my 4 years and tried to offer me everything and still loves much. I eventually realized my mother's character and personality which did much to stir the violence in our family.
Now, it has been over 1 year since I learned the truth and I am calm and easy and ready to meet my parents again and say them that I love them notwithstanding the past and all the pains they have caused me.
So, there was a reason for me being alone in USA, and having my wife, the person I love the most in my life telling me a shocking news about my two "fathers".
I am 26 years old now and it was at this age that I found out that my mother married my father when I was 4 years old, meaning that I have a different biological father. probably the most shocking news in my life at this time!
How it happened was relevant, and happened for a reason.
Up to this moment, I was feeling contempt for my father because of his abuse of alcohol, violence towards my mother, and severe education towards my younger brother and me, and all the violent quarrels in the family.
This year I was in Tampa, Florida interning in hospitality management, away from my parents, and away from my wife whom I missed so much. So one day, while talking with my wife on skype, she finally revealed the biggest ever secret to me about having a biological father. My wife then said that she new that for a year and she could not keep it a secret any longer from me, thinking that my mother will tell me that personally which actually I learned she was not even ready and thinking to divulge it to me.
After days of pondering and contemplation, I realized that me being alone in USA, away from my parents, I could not have gotten it better from anyone else than my wife whom I love with all my heart. I reacted with maturity.
I realized I was full of prejudices in evaluating the stumbling relationships in my family. I learned that my current father loved me much at my 4 years and tried to offer me everything and still loves much. I eventually realized my mother's character and personality which did much to stir the violence in our family.
Now, it has been over 1 year since I learned the truth and I am calm and easy and ready to meet my parents again and say them that I love them notwithstanding the past and all the pains they have caused me.
So, there was a reason for me being alone in USA, and having my wife, the person I love the most in my life telling me a shocking news about my two "fathers".
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