(03-27-2012, 05:20 AM)plenum Wrote: I do like this quote very much:
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42.8 To the truly balanced entity no situation would be emotionally charged.
Balance then, is not what I seek. At first glance often the way Ra speaks there is a tendency to be drawn into the very thing that would hinder our growth. Reading on a little more, and it becomes something else. In this way we become more accountable for the choice we make and how we perceive what we read.
It is my knowing that as we come into being more OPENLY expressive and more in our truth that in doing so we share LOVE more, in it's True forms.
People seem to have an idea that "Love" is something mushy, sweet and nice. That being helpful and kind all the time to others is what Love is. However, True Love is NOT sacrificing, True Love is NOT compromising and Love can be quite Formidable. It often takes courage and risk to express True Love fully.
In a universe of Duality Love includes expressing Anger at injustices, standing up for what one believes is right, being willing to risk relationships by being Open and Honest rather than placating those we truly DO care about. Of course there are higher and lower forms of these expressions and the MIND as it develops, brings us into other expressions.
If a large bus is coming and one does not shout loudly "watch out!" for fear of appearing not LOVING are we really being Love? If your spouse watches TV in all of his spare time and continues to go to a job he is miserable about are you being Love if you placate his addictions, or are you expressing yourself in True Love if you tell him how you Feel?
I used to offer what I could feel were lack of truths in my husband. I would use tears, pleading and knowledge of what I knew; he liked my input and listened well but nothing would change or come of it and he continued to repeat a similar pattern to the demise of his success. When I recognized that nothing changed and the patterns were actually worsening, I stepped up and applied my masculine energies towards our success. Unfortunately he didn't like this either and it seemed to crush his masculine energy and he now perceived me as a threat rather then a partner. One day, I simply stopped doing either, and decided to unconditionally "love him" as he was, therefore Free'ing myself of a bond that was based on old injuries and addictions and stagnant. I knew that I was no longer of value in service to him or myself in relation to "us". Interestingly enough, he remembers this day as the "day I stopped caring and loving him".
True Love also has to set it's Boundaries when it is no longer of use.
So for men, when a woman offers you feed back, it's worth considering what she might be onto. So often men are suddenly dumb-struck and wonder "why did she leave me"?! On the other hand if your partner placates your injuries and addictions then it should be noted that they are not expressing real "love" though it may seem "loving". Is she afraid of a risk of losing you herself? All relationships are based on addictions however great or small. The question is are you willing to look at them?
If you want passion and intimacy or depth in any relationship, be willing to Express your Emotions, at the risk of it dissolving that relationship.
Even in the workplace. Remember the movie Office Space? Under hypnotism the main character is no longer driven by the security of the job and begins to openly express everything, only to be promoted.
Lulu