09-02-2010, 08:04 AM
Zanny-- This is something that many empaths are working on. It is very easy to be led into a feeling state (very different from emotional which is LOVE, feelings are Fear based) by another.
It is frightening to watch another harm themselves and then to feel helpless to change thier minds--- so fear becomes expressed outwardly as anger. This does indeed feed the fire.
There are a good many reasons why this happens. Sometimes it is simply energy entrainment. Entrainment happens when an energy or sound overpowers the energies or sounds around it. Thus, the only course the overwhelmed can take is to become entrained to the noise. This happens all the time. It is also called catching a vibe (good or bad).
So the challenge when faced with entrainment is to raise ones frequency above it all (takes tremendous focus which is often not possible when freaked out by the discord) or to remove yourself from the entrainment. Calm down and raise your frequency and then face the source of the noise with calming LOVE.
I have a challenging child as well. I am learning to no longer be entrained to my childs' shennegans. And as I cease to participate the shennagans become less and less. My intuition indicates that by doing so the noise will no longer be fed and will be transformed into something that is more positive.
I have also placed the responsibility for the results of this noise on the noise makers shoulders. Thus, allowing for natural consequences to take place rather than interfering and trying to help make the situation better. This has allowed my noisemaker to experience the full range of their choices. And ultimately learn from their experiences.
I found what you were saying to be quite clear. It may feel like you are rambling, however, it is clear you are learning to shore up your energy and cease to take on water from others.
I am also re-reading Peace Pilgrim. During her travels she came across quite a few self-destructive people and through the use of LOVE assisted them in transforming themselves through the use of Acceptence, Flow, and Forgiveness (all aspects of LOVE and Unity Consciousness= Oneness). So I am going back to what I know and learning it so I can begin to apply it more readily in my life. So far with much better results than trying to change someone's mind! They have to change thier own mind. Acceptence seems to be a powerful tool in the tool belt of LOVE. Acceptence is a challenge for Old Souls as we see where the errors are being made and wish to help... But not everyone is ready for help or even wants help. This is the challenge for all healers.
Love--
fairyfarmgirl
It is frightening to watch another harm themselves and then to feel helpless to change thier minds--- so fear becomes expressed outwardly as anger. This does indeed feed the fire.
There are a good many reasons why this happens. Sometimes it is simply energy entrainment. Entrainment happens when an energy or sound overpowers the energies or sounds around it. Thus, the only course the overwhelmed can take is to become entrained to the noise. This happens all the time. It is also called catching a vibe (good or bad).
So the challenge when faced with entrainment is to raise ones frequency above it all (takes tremendous focus which is often not possible when freaked out by the discord) or to remove yourself from the entrainment. Calm down and raise your frequency and then face the source of the noise with calming LOVE.
I have a challenging child as well. I am learning to no longer be entrained to my childs' shennegans. And as I cease to participate the shennagans become less and less. My intuition indicates that by doing so the noise will no longer be fed and will be transformed into something that is more positive.
I have also placed the responsibility for the results of this noise on the noise makers shoulders. Thus, allowing for natural consequences to take place rather than interfering and trying to help make the situation better. This has allowed my noisemaker to experience the full range of their choices. And ultimately learn from their experiences.
I found what you were saying to be quite clear. It may feel like you are rambling, however, it is clear you are learning to shore up your energy and cease to take on water from others.
I am also re-reading Peace Pilgrim. During her travels she came across quite a few self-destructive people and through the use of LOVE assisted them in transforming themselves through the use of Acceptence, Flow, and Forgiveness (all aspects of LOVE and Unity Consciousness= Oneness). So I am going back to what I know and learning it so I can begin to apply it more readily in my life. So far with much better results than trying to change someone's mind! They have to change thier own mind. Acceptence seems to be a powerful tool in the tool belt of LOVE. Acceptence is a challenge for Old Souls as we see where the errors are being made and wish to help... But not everyone is ready for help or even wants help. This is the challenge for all healers.
Love--
fairyfarmgirl