Where we lead...

[zanny]

Your song story gave me the chills.

I have a niece that I have to do this with. I am not her mother...so I have less "authority" or "responsibility" but I tried to get in the door another way... I shared my experiences and my curiosity and my understanding about her drug use and boys and such. I let her know that I had been in similar situations and why.
Some problems and dramas I believe cant be helped by our parents but by peers or friends, but then the parents have an unconditional role to play. Hopefully your daughter will receive the "friend/teacher" when the time is right.

I have a "boyfriend" that is in a similar downward spiral but is at a point of reaching out and pulling away at the same time. It is very difficult to keep unconditional love when someone is taking it out on you and being somewhat abusive. It is very hard for me to keep my ego and pride out of it, as well as rules. But if I get angry..something strange begins to happen. It is almost as if I HAVE to be nice or it effects ME. I have to be nice while knowing I think I am justified in anger and that I "should" be defensive or self respectful.

Hi seagrass,

I also feel that sometimes when I get angry. Sometimes it's like I know that anger is wrong or that it will effect me negatively, and the act of analyzing it takes the anger away.

Maybe that is when you notice the behavior of the "other" in a clearer way. Like when you say you "should be" defensive because that is a natural reaction when being attacked but you are not being defensive because you know better. Is that what you are saying?

Thank you for sharing such a beautiful principle. Examples speak volumes more than anything we could preach, in my opinion.

I need the examples...Otherwise they are just words on a page. (flat)

dear beautiful zanny

thanks you for having the courage to share your beautiful story. it
really touched me deeply. we have 4 children, 1 was easy 3 were not.
they have all turned out well and they all had to reach the point where
they realized the only person they were really hurting was themselves.
i will remember your child in my prayers and all the many children in
our society who are in similar situations. may the angels continue to
embrace you and your family

love
norral

Thank you norral, your words of hope make my heart sing~! I also have four children, Two grown and out of the house. Thank you for your prayers for mine and all children.


zanny

I hope the little lamb comes back to you...

Thank you, she came back and then when she turned 18 moved out and is off living her life and learning her lessons...I am quite proud of her strength and courage to do it on her own (as she says). But I know that she has guidance and is following her own path...If it will align with mine anytime soon is yet to be determined at this point in time...

zanny

Zanny and all:

Peace Pilgrim can be found at www.peacepilgrim.com. The book is free in analogue form or digital.

--fairyfarmgirl

Thanks for the link~!
zanny