I don't think familial bonds count in unconditional love.

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I just have a hard time grasping this concept of unconditional love when it comes to the self.

If you love "without reason and without expectation", how do you do that without expecting yourself to do that and without the reason that you want to do it without reason? I'm splitting hairs with words here, but that's because it's a key semantic point.

I understand what you're trying to say is "without expectation of return", but that is different than strictly without reason or expectation. Even if your reason is "because we are one", you still have a reason. The expectation is still "more positivity" or "more love" or any other kind of empowerment.

The fact is that we choose to love because we believe it is positive and it is delusional to think we are not gaining that benefit or do not have that reason.

I think it is more accurately described as a matter of having genuine concern for another's well being without that empathy being affected by the others behavior -- as in, you care regardless of their actions.  There doesn't have to be a "reason" why, or an expectation of yourself, or whatever, you might just feel empathy because that's where you are, or who you are.  If you care for someone but then they treat you like garbage and then you don't, there was love, but it wasn't as strong and unwavering as a solid crystallized green ray, which doesn't wobble due to another's actions.  To be honest, I don't think it is something you can just choose to do, rather I think you just reach a certain point in your evolution where you just aren't swayed by another's behavior and then it becomes unconditional.

It's like when someone attacks you, what is your honest emotional reaction? Do you see the suffering of the person lashing out asking to be healed, or do you just see some a****** who decided to be a jerk today?  I think after a certain point, you can't help but see that all disconnection is a cry for help at some level, which allows for one to see such acts of separation in a compassionate light. So love is more like "not being indifferent to another's well being, or lack thereof".  It doesn't have anything to do with expectation in my opinion, rather just "giving a s***" as opposed to "not giving a s***".

So maybe green ray is best described as just "caring", and when you "stop caring" your green ray has dimmed, and when your green ray is crystallized, you don't really ever stop caring and it is then deemed "unconditional".  I think it is very natural, at the human level to not care often.  But it is the goal of this density to eventually feel genuine unwavering concern for our fellow beings.