I don't think familial bonds count in unconditional love.

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That's a good approach, I think there are lots of different techniques for this. Personally, I experience energy very tangibly and in many cases I can see it. For me, I eventually realized that every empathic interaction is an energy transfer, attempting to move from one to another and back. I realized that so long as I can perceive that interaction I can stay "outside" of it. There are many cases where I will empathize and at first wonder what is up with myself, then suddenly realize I've tuned in to someone else and it'll just kind of split, I'll notice the difference between "me" and "them", or rather the difference in frequencies.

Ultimately, every energy that enters in to the system is trying to make its way up to the crown, although it may be discharged at blue. So I eventually realized that part of the reason for the difficulty with handling empathy what because I would try to "hold on" to the energy as I identified with it. So now, I have learned that the best way is forward, to keep things moving and transforming.

I basically view it that systems try to equalize. So when there is a strong charge in one system and it encounters another system which is in difference then the energy will try to equally spread itself across the systems. What you have to be careful of is being who consciously keep themselves in lower emotional states cause unlike those working from pain, that vibration likely won't be lifted by that approach.

I think I used to hold onto their energy too. I used to be perpetually broken because I care deeply and am always the one who cares so people spill their guts, or just their energy. I closed off my of my ability to see and hear non 3D as a kid as they scared me so I am at a disadvantage not being able to see them for the most part. It's possible I am unconsciously doing what you describe I just have worked hard to find balance so I focus on that and it's funny how it can pick people up.

agreed about there being some I can't lift up because they choose to stay low. My goal with those is to just turn conversation to a positive one then leave. I don't know if it truely helps them but it helps me not be dragged down and I'm no good to anyone if they manage to knock me Off balance and if I don't do something I will carry them with me. Still learning, still working on balance.