Creating a Shield

[Diana]

It's easy to miss the fact that a very self centered person, who never tries to control other selves and accepts all people the way they are is indeed very much walking the STO path.

I would even argue that it's more difficult to passively accept all other selves than to actively help other selves.

I cannot understand this view. If a self-centered person is accepting other-selves, doesn't that imply that they aren't making a decision to accept others directly, rather, they are accepting them by default because they are centered on themselves?

Are you saying that it is more difficult for the STO self-centered person to accept others passively (because he/she is focused on self) than the active STO person who works hard to understand free will and acceptance of a difficult family member?