Unity comes from sweat and tears in this reality.

[xise]

I agree with sweat and tears, and much confusion. I am often confused about how to act, and it makes me act inappropriately at times. Then I feel terrible afterwards. Darn this veil of confusion.

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Then, as you examine your response with catalyst, if a perfectly balanced response presents itself take it. But if you are left with two less than balanced responses, which is often the reality in 3d, take the one the moves you closer a balanced state.

This is often hard for me to do. The other day my dog scratched me in the eye when he was playing and my automatic reflex was to kick him and hold him down. I felt really bad after that, but he scratched me pretty good. I don't know how to examine these automatic reflexes or choices. It's like I don't care, when I really do care for him. I've since made it up with lots of hugs, but I can't help but still feel bad over it.

What will you do differently the next time your dog scratches you?

[Spaced]

Thus why I subtly say sweat and tears will come from the effort involved.

The thing that's funny though, is once you manage to build up enough polarization it BECOMES easy as this builds the momentum, which will carry you forward. The only hard part is making the choice and sticking to it mind, body and soul.

[AnthroHeart]

I agree with sweat and tears, and much confusion. I am often confused about how to act, and it makes me act inappropriately at times. Then I feel terrible afterwards. Darn this veil of confusion.

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Then, as you examine your response with catalyst, if a perfectly balanced response presents itself take it. But if you are left with two less than balanced responses, which is often the reality in 3d, take the one the moves you closer a balanced state.

This is often hard for me to do. The other day my dog scratched me in the eye when he was playing and my automatic reflex was to kick him and hold him down. I felt really bad after that, but he scratched me pretty good. I don't know how to examine these automatic reflexes or choices. It's like I don't care, when I really do care for him. I've since made it up with lots of hugs, but I can't help but still feel bad over it.

What will you do differently the next time your dog scratches you?

I will be more patient. After all I realize he is just playing. I lost an opportunity for more cuddling after that event, by scaring him away. That was what I felt bad for, was the lost opportunity of getting close. I just want to plain be there for him when he needs me.

Though sometimes I'm unpredictable. If he scratches my eye again, I can't be for sure what reflex might happen. I'll instinctively push him away rather than trying to cuddle closer. But perhaps I won't be so aggressive the next time.

[Adonai One]

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[xise]

I will be more patient. After all I realize he is just playing. I lost an opportunity for more cuddling after that event, by scaring him away. That was what I felt bad for, was the lost opportunity of getting close. I just want to plain be there for him when he needs me.

Though sometimes I'm unpredictable. If he scratches my eye again, I can't be for sure what reflex might happen. I'll instinctively push him away rather than trying to cuddle closer. But perhaps I won't be so aggressive the next time.

What have you found that can you do, in general, that helps to reduce your unpredictable aggression and increase your patience?

[AnthroHeart]

I will be more patient. After all I realize he is just playing. I lost an opportunity for more cuddling after that event, by scaring him away. That was what I felt bad for, was the lost opportunity of getting close. I just want to plain be there for him when he needs me.

Though sometimes I'm unpredictable. If he scratches my eye again, I can't be for sure what reflex might happen. I'll instinctively push him away rather than trying to cuddle closer. But perhaps I won't be so aggressive the next time.

What have you found that can you do, in general, that helps to reduce your unpredictable aggression and increase your patience?

Just counting my blessings and being thankful for having him in my life. Stay in the mindset that we are only playing, and not to take any of it seriously. And keep my face away from him so I don't get scratched unintentionally. I think those are a few ways. I wouldn't say I get super aggressive. It's just a one time thing and it's over. I don't harp on him for a long time.

[xise]

Just counting my blessings and being thankful for having him in my life. Stay in the mindset that we are only playing, and not to take any of it seriously. And keep my face away from him so I don't get scratched unintentionally. I think those are a few ways. I wouldn't say I get super aggressive. It's just a one time thing and it's over. I don't harp on him for a long time.

Outside of this instance, have you found activities that fill you peace and patience, and have you made an effort to make them a larger part of your life?

Generalizing specific instances of catalyst can also be a fruitful method of balancing.

[AnthroHeart]

I used to draw which brought me some comfort, but I like now pretty much doing nothing at all.
When I get home, I just sit, and relax. It's my favorite thing to do aside from playing with wolfy.