*trigger* beware need advice

[jacrob]

Family members of mine were severely abused by their father and when the father was dying in hospital one of them refused to go see him. The father begged the other children to get his son to come and say goodby, to no avail.

The son has no regrets about not seeing his father before his death (nearly 40yrs ago now) and will only say he was a very evil man and he couldn't bring himself to see him. All 12 children refused to speak of the evils committed against them and except for one grew up to be the nicest, kindest, most STO adults you can imagine.

Now the one son has held onto this anger and resentment for many decades and now has cancer. 3 of his sisters and 3 of his brothers all died of cancer.

I'm not suggesting you will end up with disease, and I'm not suggesting you go see someone that caused you so much pain. But you must try to forgive and let go of the pain. I have no idea how you would heal such a horrendous experience but there has to be a way.

I recall Monica talking on In the Now about helping a friend heal from
past abuse, but I can't remember the procedure she used. Something about communicating to the little abused child within and allowing it to express the pain. Maybe you can ask her.

Good luck my friend.