*trigger* beware need advice

[Monica]

Monica: what the therapist suggested was... awful. There are 'non-invasive' ways to deal with trauma but confronting perpetrators may actually re-traumatize someone, if their PTSD or other condition is severe... but it's something that ought to be a person's choice to confront/not confront, not professional advice.

This was about 30 years ago. Hopefully, psychiatry/psychology has progressed since then.

I hope your sister is doing well.

Unfortunately, 3 of my sisters never recovered. One was in and out of mental hospitals, and is heavily medicated to this day, now nearing 70. the other 2, in their 60s, spent their entire adult lives in a state of perpetual hate and anger. They cut themselves off from the rest of the family, but last I heard, they were still living in the past. But thanks!

My philosophy is: If parents ruined the first part of our lives, why let them ruin the rest of it?

I've worked with clients who missed their opportunity to work on relationship with their deceased family members... we worked intrapsychically (internal family) because we each internalize a bit of our family in us and work from the inside. Worked well... it's a lifetime healing process but they felt relief.

Actually, in modern techniques you wouldn't even need to talk through trauma or think too much about it, much less confront head on...

Please tell us more about the work you do!