11-03-2012, 12:36 PM
Monica: The work I do... kinda varies these days... but the core is to be genuine, calm, compassionate, empathic... all the rest follows from that point. Realistically speaking, it's impossible to change others.... so we don't really focus on that... So we help people shift to look more within. It's hard at first because blaming or scapegoating others is safer for a person with lots of trauma experiences. They build their tolerance for pain and ambiguity and they will start to turn within more and more.
I've worked with many women who have bad terrible experiences with parents. They have a hard time letting the 'cord' go, even when unimaginable abuse occurred. They still yearn for their parents. That whole love-hate dynamics is difficult to process. But it's possible.
I've worked with many women who have bad terrible experiences with parents. They have a hard time letting the 'cord' go, even when unimaginable abuse occurred. They still yearn for their parents. That whole love-hate dynamics is difficult to process. But it's possible.