02-09-2010, 11:13 AM
I like what fairy farm girl said earlier, "This is not your karma to continue to help another who only cares for that which they care for." and well its the truth. but JEEZ man everybody here is quoting the words of Ra and other confederate messages. lets keep this simple guys.
Go inside your nephew's house and clean up all the mess you guys see. throw away all the trash. cigarettes and booze around get rid of it. put the magazines away someplace (don't take it away just put them away). clean up the Cats s*** and please feed them. i have a cat so i know what it's like falling behind cleaning up after my pet.
but at this point you going to need to slowly become more distance from your nephew in steps, very slow steps. when he comes home don't b**** at him don't scold him or try to lecture him he's a grownup, treat him like one. just put it down simply what it is. so to better your nephew and to better yourself. the life lessons living in this world must be consummated. life must be learned through steps. however they may be different for most. some greater then others. but in either way must be learned.
My Father did a great job teaching me how to teach me how to move up and out of the house on my own. he said to me, "Son, 1 year from now your moving out on your own"
he used to feed me everyday. i had a part time job at the time only enough to pay for some stuff. slowly 1 day of the week we didn't have dinner. he didn't say anything just he ate already. there was no food or anything just 1 day that i didn't get to eat. which was fine because everything seemed okay the next day. some more time moved along and 2 days of the week we didn't have dinner. they weren't next to each other but man.. was i hungry in between those days. he didn't say anything (My family didn't eat breakfast or lunch not that it mattered i wasn't home usually) the days slowly over time progressed where it became evident that he wasn't going to buy food at all anymore for me. so i had to eat. i got whatever paycheck i had and i saw what little money i had and i bought food with it. it was foreign to me to do such things. but i realized i ran out of money real quick buying the expensive eat out places. i had no money left. no nothing left.
i asked my dad, "hey dad umm. I'm hungry can you buy me something to eat." he said this, "alright, ill get ya something." my dad is Asian so he went out to an Asian market and bought about 1 dollars worth of rice and some Asian style pork and eggs. something that may of costed him $2.50 total. this amount of food wouldn't of even fed 90 lbs women. everytime i asked him. he was pick me up something. but not anything NEAR enough what i needed.
it was then where i found another job which gave me full time hours. and more then minimum wage. but it took that push of man i need to eat.
at this point my dad started to charge me rent. and so on. i had to pay a cut of the utilities. which were within my grasp of payment but he knew what i was making and how much it was suitable for me to handle. had i missed a payment my dad cut off the thing i used the most... like the internet. blip turned off the wireless and no neibor in sight who had a free wifi signal nearby. boy those days sucked when i couldn't play my video games.
but anyways. when the end of the year came down he told me. son on this date Im moving out of the house. and your going to have to find a place of your own. he helped me out with the deposit. (which turned out was all of the rent and utility money i came up with) he also made it a point to show that my share of the rent was the same as regular rent of an apartment would of been like.
but that's what my father did to me. i cannot for the life of me see how me thought up of such plan but he did a great job at it. btw i was 21 when he did that. i'm 26 now 5 years strong in the dog eat dog world.
but good luck, i suggest these tips to help improve your nephew's conditon. though i have no remedy for the g/f with a child
Go inside your nephew's house and clean up all the mess you guys see. throw away all the trash. cigarettes and booze around get rid of it. put the magazines away someplace (don't take it away just put them away). clean up the Cats s*** and please feed them. i have a cat so i know what it's like falling behind cleaning up after my pet.
but at this point you going to need to slowly become more distance from your nephew in steps, very slow steps. when he comes home don't b**** at him don't scold him or try to lecture him he's a grownup, treat him like one. just put it down simply what it is. so to better your nephew and to better yourself. the life lessons living in this world must be consummated. life must be learned through steps. however they may be different for most. some greater then others. but in either way must be learned.
My Father did a great job teaching me how to teach me how to move up and out of the house on my own. he said to me, "Son, 1 year from now your moving out on your own"
he used to feed me everyday. i had a part time job at the time only enough to pay for some stuff. slowly 1 day of the week we didn't have dinner. he didn't say anything just he ate already. there was no food or anything just 1 day that i didn't get to eat. which was fine because everything seemed okay the next day. some more time moved along and 2 days of the week we didn't have dinner. they weren't next to each other but man.. was i hungry in between those days. he didn't say anything (My family didn't eat breakfast or lunch not that it mattered i wasn't home usually) the days slowly over time progressed where it became evident that he wasn't going to buy food at all anymore for me. so i had to eat. i got whatever paycheck i had and i saw what little money i had and i bought food with it. it was foreign to me to do such things. but i realized i ran out of money real quick buying the expensive eat out places. i had no money left. no nothing left.
i asked my dad, "hey dad umm. I'm hungry can you buy me something to eat." he said this, "alright, ill get ya something." my dad is Asian so he went out to an Asian market and bought about 1 dollars worth of rice and some Asian style pork and eggs. something that may of costed him $2.50 total. this amount of food wouldn't of even fed 90 lbs women. everytime i asked him. he was pick me up something. but not anything NEAR enough what i needed.
it was then where i found another job which gave me full time hours. and more then minimum wage. but it took that push of man i need to eat.
at this point my dad started to charge me rent. and so on. i had to pay a cut of the utilities. which were within my grasp of payment but he knew what i was making and how much it was suitable for me to handle. had i missed a payment my dad cut off the thing i used the most... like the internet. blip turned off the wireless and no neibor in sight who had a free wifi signal nearby. boy those days sucked when i couldn't play my video games.
but anyways. when the end of the year came down he told me. son on this date Im moving out of the house. and your going to have to find a place of your own. he helped me out with the deposit. (which turned out was all of the rent and utility money i came up with) he also made it a point to show that my share of the rent was the same as regular rent of an apartment would of been like.
but that's what my father did to me. i cannot for the life of me see how me thought up of such plan but he did a great job at it. btw i was 21 when he did that. i'm 26 now 5 years strong in the dog eat dog world.
but good luck, i suggest these tips to help improve your nephew's conditon. though i have no remedy for the g/f with a child