01-26-2013, 04:02 PM
Xradfl, first of all I want to send you love and blessings! I know how difficult it is to go through something like this...to have such a strong connection to someone.
I don't know what the solution is for you, but I will offer a few points - just some food for thought - that you might wish to contemplate.
First of all, it's very common to have a strong connection to someone - even to the point of knowing what she's about to say or what she is thinking, or feeling that no one else has ever understood you this well, and no one else will ever understand you this well - and you think this strong connection is proof that you are soul mates and meant to be together. BUT, it's very common to have such a strong connection when the relationship is just karmic.
In other words, my advice is to NOT assume that you and her are soul mates or destined to be together, based on the strength of your connection, because that doesn't necessarily mean anything. It might just be a residual connection from many past lives of difficult, karmically-charged relationships!
Sometimes people even feel a really strong connection with someone whom they've had intensely strong karma with in the past...for the purpose of ensuring that they find each other again so they can work out their karmic lessons. It doesn't necessarily mean they will have a happy life together, though it might in some cases.
It's difficult to believe that you could actually find someone in the future with whom you have such a strong connection, but I know from experience (myself and people I know) that it's not only possible, but probable! I once thought I'd never find anyone who understood me as well as an ex-boyfriend, but I was wrong and found someone who is a much better match for me. Now, I am very glad that the ex-boyfriend dumped me!
Now, getting back to your situation, I have a couple of questions:
1. How do you feel about her cheating on her boyfriend with you?
2. How do you feel about her lying to both of you? Has that been resolved? Or is she still lying?
3. Are you sure you want to be in a relationship with someone who has been lying?
4. In light of the fact that she has been lying, you cannot be sure at this point whose baby it is. It could be yours, or it could be his. She might think she knows, but she could be wrong, being that it's difficult to know exactly when conception took place, even with a period. Sometimes pregnant women have a light period the first month, so they don't even know they're pregnant.
5. Since the situation is out of your hands anyway, the best thing you can do right now is to get some clarity in your own mind about how you really feel about her and what lessons this catalyst is trying to teach you. Only meditation can illuminate this.
Hope this helps!
I don't know what the solution is for you, but I will offer a few points - just some food for thought - that you might wish to contemplate.
First of all, it's very common to have a strong connection to someone - even to the point of knowing what she's about to say or what she is thinking, or feeling that no one else has ever understood you this well, and no one else will ever understand you this well - and you think this strong connection is proof that you are soul mates and meant to be together. BUT, it's very common to have such a strong connection when the relationship is just karmic.
In other words, my advice is to NOT assume that you and her are soul mates or destined to be together, based on the strength of your connection, because that doesn't necessarily mean anything. It might just be a residual connection from many past lives of difficult, karmically-charged relationships!
Sometimes people even feel a really strong connection with someone whom they've had intensely strong karma with in the past...for the purpose of ensuring that they find each other again so they can work out their karmic lessons. It doesn't necessarily mean they will have a happy life together, though it might in some cases.
It's difficult to believe that you could actually find someone in the future with whom you have such a strong connection, but I know from experience (myself and people I know) that it's not only possible, but probable! I once thought I'd never find anyone who understood me as well as an ex-boyfriend, but I was wrong and found someone who is a much better match for me. Now, I am very glad that the ex-boyfriend dumped me!
Now, getting back to your situation, I have a couple of questions:
1. How do you feel about her cheating on her boyfriend with you?
2. How do you feel about her lying to both of you? Has that been resolved? Or is she still lying?
3. Are you sure you want to be in a relationship with someone who has been lying?
4. In light of the fact that she has been lying, you cannot be sure at this point whose baby it is. It could be yours, or it could be his. She might think she knows, but she could be wrong, being that it's difficult to know exactly when conception took place, even with a period. Sometimes pregnant women have a light period the first month, so they don't even know they're pregnant.
5. Since the situation is out of your hands anyway, the best thing you can do right now is to get some clarity in your own mind about how you really feel about her and what lessons this catalyst is trying to teach you. Only meditation can illuminate this.
Hope this helps!