About my mother: Help.

[caycegal]

My reaction is that you could benefit from studying some of the Abraham material. If it doesn't feel right, it's not right. Any action taken while you are feeling bad about it will not take you where you want to go. Someone (even if it's your mom) who's trying to talk you into anything or persuade you to do things that do not feel comfortable to you could be your teacher in the sense that you will learn with some suffering that such a path is not helpful to anyone. I speak as one who let other people make decisions for me for many years because I thought it was how you show someone you love them, and also I thought it was the "nice" way to be. Don't be mean to your mom - just be in charge of your own decisions. If she insists on telling you what to do and think, let that be her problem. Get help from someone else if you don't know how to stand up too her in a loving way. (Counselor, therapist, Codependents Anonymous meetings are possibilities.)

I give this advice because you asked for it. Take it if it works for you. Discard it if it does not. Listen to your inner guidance.