About my mother: Help.

[Aloneness]

This is by far the most difficult, exciting and fun way of learning I've ever experienced.
My mother and I are very alike except in our way of expressing thoughts and feelings but I see how we both can learn from that. About the vibrational issue, she said; if you keep this up you'll become invisible to other people or they become afraid of you. Invisible? That's interesting!

Thanks all for sharing, muchly appreciated!

But raising one's vibration is concomitant with removing distortions from one's being, and especially with polarization! The more you raise your vibration, the more polarized you'll be, and the more power you will have to help others.

It seems like maybe your mom meant something like Gentle Reckoning said? That she didn't mean to literally lower your vibration, but just to make yourself understandable to those who can't digest straight spiritual stuff. It sounds like you have a very interesting relationship to your mom.

i'll have to ask her what exactly she meant to say with it. I'm a bit of an airhead compared to her, she lives by many spiritual 'rules' which I don't understand. I believe she's had some very intense spiritual encounters which caused her to lower her vibe and integrate these rules as safety measures. She's been on this path for a long time so she knows a lot but she likes to keep things/knowledge to herself because she's been dissapointed so many times. I admire her strength a great deal. I don't like the feeling of being pushed in a certain direction and have her say it's a universal law or something, instead of her own controlling issues. She'll probably say I have to work on my 'problem with authority' issue, lol. Yes, it's very interesting. Thanks.

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We did your question on the radio show tonight, Aloneness.

http://bring4th.org/forums/showthread.ph...#pid123943

That's great Monica, I'll be sure to take a listen today. Merci!

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My reaction is that you could benefit from studying some of the Abraham material. If it doesn't feel right, it's not right. Any action taken while you are feeling bad about it will not take you where you want to go. Someone (even if it's your mom) who's trying to talk you into anything or persuade you to do things that do not feel comfortable to you could be your teacher in the sense that you will learn with some suffering that such a path is not helpful to anyone. I speak as one who let other people make decisions for me for many years because I thought it was how you show someone you love them, and also I thought it was the "nice" way to be. Don't be mean to your mom - just be in charge of your own decisions. If she insists on telling you what to do and think, let that be her problem. Get help from someone else if you don't know how to stand up too her in a loving way. (Counselor, therapist, Codependents Anonymous meetings are possibilities.)

I give this advice because you asked for it. Take it if it works for you. Discard it if it does not. Listen to your inner guidance.

I love Abraham's teachings! Been listening to it for hours these past weeks. I feel unable to stand up to her because I don't really know where I'm headed yet. When I tell her that she'll just say I have to DO something, like, sign up for a workshop. Well, I don't want to because i finally have some time and space to do more inner work, so to speak. Sometimes she says the longer she has to wait for us the more physical pain she has to endure. That kills me but I try not take that personally. Thanks for your response!