I have struggled with mild to severe depression throught this entire incarnation. I have learned one thing about it which has allowed me to be dramatically less depressed: 'band aids' only offer a very temporary solution which actually make the problem much worse later on.
For me, it was "if only she wasn't angry with me, I would at least feel ok". Or "if only I could get a 12 pack, I would feel better tonight". Or "if only I could call in to work today to play video games, my life would be less depressing." And most recently, it was "if I could get a kitten from the shelter, it would make me happy." Or "if only I can make it to Dec 21st/ when 'disclosure' happens, I will be ok."
I was wrong, it all made me feel worse in the long run. Especially the kitten, who simply absorbed my negative, depressed attitude towards life and became so destructively unmanageable that I had to return the poor guy to the shelter.
It was only until I truly accepted myself and my situation, flaws and all, that I found happiness. I had to learn to love myself in order to be any position to aid others.
For me, it was "if only she wasn't angry with me, I would at least feel ok". Or "if only I could get a 12 pack, I would feel better tonight". Or "if only I could call in to work today to play video games, my life would be less depressing." And most recently, it was "if I could get a kitten from the shelter, it would make me happy." Or "if only I can make it to Dec 21st/ when 'disclosure' happens, I will be ok."
I was wrong, it all made me feel worse in the long run. Especially the kitten, who simply absorbed my negative, depressed attitude towards life and became so destructively unmanageable that I had to return the poor guy to the shelter.
It was only until I truly accepted myself and my situation, flaws and all, that I found happiness. I had to learn to love myself in order to be any position to aid others.
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