Unity comes from sweat and tears in this reality.

[Adonai One]

Pretending your differences don't exist, repressing them and not stating your true desires does nothing. It does not bring you together. It doesn't resolve differences. It simply puts things on pause and keeps you seperate

Being agreeable only for the sake of peace builds nothing.

Understanding, compassion and love comes from getting to know people in their entirety, even when it hurts.

Love isn't a cakewalk. It's a battlefield.

I know I am forming a relationship with people when I begin to understand their differences and try to unite with them through active discussion and disagreement, which inevitably consilidates into understanding. This is what love is about.

When we close ourselves off from this process, we learn nothing.

Surrendering in every disagreement only keeps you repressed. We are all one including our individual desires.

Simply, talk things out when you are upset. Don't just settle for nothing.

Additionally, the idea of "just surrender, your desires don't matter" is STS to me. It's a compacting of the universal self. Not an expansion. The one who surrenders remains repressed in his desires. They remain unloved and misunderstood.