The law of Responsibility is in effect at all times?

[Adonai One]

I will add that you could love your family and try to save them by killing their kidnapper, so to speak, but that will not necessarily polarize your positively if you deny the unity that exists within the situation and the kidnapper.

If you wish to "control" the kidnapper enough, you will likely polarize negatively.

If you choose to embrace and accept the unity in the situation, the opposite will happen.

Polarization is about enlightening you towards loving all things. It's not a karmic game.