07-20-2013, 04:26 AM
in my opinion, the fear of rejection is one of the most prominent and widespread of blockages. This 'fear' prevents us from even trying things; to attempt to talk to a stranger because they might tell us 'to go away', or to attempt to interact with someone you find attractive, to get to know them better.
what is at the heart of this? that if you're rejected, it says that 'you're not good enough?', that 'you're a total reject and loser?'.
it is worth examing the roots of such fears more closely. Once you find the 'core experience' which generated the original belief pattern, you can then -re-perspectivise things.
fear of rejection also comes up in:
* job interviews and job applications
* interacting in a dynamic social environment (party or gathering)
* making the first foray, instead of waiting to be asked (more passive).
if you were rejected yourself early on in life, that core experience can have a devastating effect on how you shape the attitudes towards the self. Only through re-visiting can these patterns be undone.
plenum
what is at the heart of this? that if you're rejected, it says that 'you're not good enough?', that 'you're a total reject and loser?'.
it is worth examing the roots of such fears more closely. Once you find the 'core experience' which generated the original belief pattern, you can then -re-perspectivise things.
fear of rejection also comes up in:
* job interviews and job applications
* interacting in a dynamic social environment (party or gathering)
* making the first foray, instead of waiting to be asked (more passive).
if you were rejected yourself early on in life, that core experience can have a devastating effect on how you shape the attitudes towards the self. Only through re-visiting can these patterns be undone.
plenum
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