The Dismantling of the Approval/Disapproval Mechanism

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Every word spoken could be considered harsh/smooth depending on the locus one looks through. All positive comments are negative and all negative comments are positive.

Somewhat true, but it would incorrect to say that social norms concerning language are irrelevant - they possess informative, probabilistic value as to how others may interpret our words - this is why most do not use expletives in formal settings or with strangers. Similarly, you use different language when speaking to young children. There is a societal spectrum of negative/positive comments, and although one's social skill does determine one's adeptness in their use, I believe everyone has some general understanding of soft/harsh language.

However, notwithstanding an initial mismatch between the speaker and the recipient of soft/harsh language due to different norms, learning can occur by observing the other self's reactions in a given dialogue. If we truly believe that other selves are important and care for them via green ray, we observe and learn from interaction with this particular other self to be more compassionate and understanding of their distortions. Almost all interaction with other selves leads to catalyst. Giving another self a known perceived bad experience when it is not strictly necessary is, in my understanding, not congruent to positive polarization (which isn't a bad thing - negative and or confused entities are acceptable and part of creation!). The negative polarity (as well as the confused or the non-polarized being) does serve as a unique role of providing those experiences because they naturally vibrate a closed green (although not necessarily true for non-negatives), and thus are not understanding, caring, or compassionate of their actions effects on other-selves.

So while interpretations may be relative a priori, the resulting interpretations from other selves and resulting reactions once communication has begun fixes the perceived interpretation. Then, if we care about other selves, we try to communicate with softer language when we are able to do so. That being said, we all do confused and/or distorted things from time to time, regardless of our polarity, and there is great use in recognizing and learning from those experiences.