does the word 'desire' have negative overtones for you?

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This is like over-simplified negative looping & amplification effect of suffering:
Pain + negative interpretation of pain --> avoidance of pain --> suffering--> neg interpret of catalyst --> attempt 'solution' of avoidance, again -->more suffering --> repeat till ready to do something different!


Exception: Pain + approach pain --> temporary suffering/discomfort due (i.e. healing crisis)
when there is 'healing crisis' pain is brought up to surface for examination so it's gonna be painful & person might experience suffering temporarily.

Desire is just conscious or unconscious needs that tends to influence our behavior, emotions, thoughts, etc.,. e.g., Attachment is a necessary and important part of human development - certain needs are hopefully met at certain period of one's growing up process. As one matures (more 'individuated'), the needs around relationships w/ people & things change. More individuated people have less attachment/baggage bc they 'grow out of it' by working thru their unconscious stuffs.