Correction, Mr Adonai. This is what I believe actually happens:
YOU:
Catalyst: A person asks me to do something.
Experience: I don't want to do it. (Resistance)
Experience/Significator: I am not doing it. (Choice made, process stops there - there is no transformation, there is no change)
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THE OTHER PERSON:
Catalyst: The other person asks help with doing something, the request is denied.
Experience: The other person is upset. (Resistance)
Experience/Significator: The other person is upset at me over the long-term. (Dwelling on the resistance, no transformation, no change.)
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YOU:
Catalyst: A person tells me I have to do the same thing, once more.
Experience: I don't want to do it. (Resistance)
Experience/Significator: I am not doing it. (Dwelling on resistance, no further change or transformation.)
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THE OTHER PERSON:
Catalyst: The other person asks help with doing something once more, the request is denied.
Experience: The other person is even more upset. (Further resistance)
Experience/Significator: The other person is still upset at me over the long-term. (Dwelling on resistance, no further change or transformation).
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YOU:
Catalyst: A person asks me to do the same thing one last time.
Experience: I still do not want to do it. (Resistance)
Experience/Significator: I am still not doing it. (Dwelling on resistance, no change or transformation)
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THE OTHER PERSON:
Catalyst: The other person asks help with doing something one last time, the request is denied.
Experience: The other person is not pleased, leading to giving up. (Resistance, followed by a release of it).
Experience/Significator: The other person accepts that their request cannot be fulfilled - You refuse to transform/change in any manner, forcing the other to transform in your stead. (Acceptance of the idea, enabling transformation)
Transformation: The other person changes their focus to, leaves the situation altogether. (Acceptance, automatic)
The Great Way: Completion has been reached by way that the other person has moved on. (Acceptance, reboot)
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CONCLUSION:
While the other person has completed the cycle by moving on, you are still stuck with your categoric "no", unmoving and unchanging in your pursuit of resistance in regards to the situation at hand. By not even addressing the person's request or attempting to find a consensus in this situation, you necessarily force the other person to bend to your will and change completely.
Congratulations, you have asserted your will onto an other as a response to a catalyst you initially interpreted as an assertion of their will over you. In other words; kill them or be killed mentality.
YOU:
Catalyst: A person asks me to do something.
Experience: I don't want to do it. (Resistance)
Experience/Significator: I am not doing it. (Choice made, process stops there - there is no transformation, there is no change)
--
THE OTHER PERSON:
Catalyst: The other person asks help with doing something, the request is denied.
Experience: The other person is upset. (Resistance)
Experience/Significator: The other person is upset at me over the long-term. (Dwelling on the resistance, no transformation, no change.)
--
YOU:
Catalyst: A person tells me I have to do the same thing, once more.
Experience: I don't want to do it. (Resistance)
Experience/Significator: I am not doing it. (Dwelling on resistance, no further change or transformation.)
--
THE OTHER PERSON:
Catalyst: The other person asks help with doing something once more, the request is denied.
Experience: The other person is even more upset. (Further resistance)
Experience/Significator: The other person is still upset at me over the long-term. (Dwelling on resistance, no further change or transformation).
--
YOU:
Catalyst: A person asks me to do the same thing one last time.
Experience: I still do not want to do it. (Resistance)
Experience/Significator: I am still not doing it. (Dwelling on resistance, no change or transformation)
--
THE OTHER PERSON:
Catalyst: The other person asks help with doing something one last time, the request is denied.
Experience: The other person is not pleased, leading to giving up. (Resistance, followed by a release of it).
Experience/Significator: The other person accepts that their request cannot be fulfilled - You refuse to transform/change in any manner, forcing the other to transform in your stead. (Acceptance of the idea, enabling transformation)
Transformation: The other person changes their focus to, leaves the situation altogether. (Acceptance, automatic)
The Great Way: Completion has been reached by way that the other person has moved on. (Acceptance, reboot)
--
CONCLUSION:
While the other person has completed the cycle by moving on, you are still stuck with your categoric "no", unmoving and unchanging in your pursuit of resistance in regards to the situation at hand. By not even addressing the person's request or attempting to find a consensus in this situation, you necessarily force the other person to bend to your will and change completely.
Congratulations, you have asserted your will onto an other as a response to a catalyst you initially interpreted as an assertion of their will over you. In other words; kill them or be killed mentality.
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