The two arguments for love I've found...

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Argument 1 (Majority): People need to strive harder to consider one another and love each other.

Argument 2 (Minority): People will naturally consider one another and love each other once people are allowed to live lives they want to live and have time to freely give to one another.

The former argues that we aren't pushing ourselves hard enough. The other argues this pushing is the problem.

Why is this weak?

In my experience with my wife, there is little effort in our relationship. We both find our relationship easy. Why should it be hard?

In fact, I have only found relationships difficult when a lot is asked by everyone involved with great expectations. I have had these and simply choose not to maintain them out of respect for myself. I will say no to forceful requests.

2 choices - so people either think we need to strive or it's that 2 people allow each other to be who they are? Of all the people in this forum, there are only two views... Impossible.

Not talking whether relationships are hard but that it *can* be hard work in certain situations - e.g., when challenging catalysts occur there may be challenges for both - orange ray lessons or yellow ray lessons or whatnot. It's a possibility not a certainty tho - really depends on the couple and individual factors. When # 1 happens, you would hope # 2 kicks in. If expectation is #1 perhaps there is some relational template that is playing out unconsciously in all intimate relationships for person. But there are so many views around relationships it's crazy to reduce it down to 2 'arguments'.