Psychologists Find that Agreeable People Are More Likely to Hurt You

[xise]

Cynicism would mean I'm not open to the possibility of agreeable people being helpful and not hurting me.

However, I have noticed a trend that people who try to be agreeable all the time will often throw me under the bus the moment I don't agree with them. "Nice" and "polite" people often remind me of the people who wash windows of cars of people who never asked for it, who then get pissed when they don't get paid.

It's conditional love embodied. Everybody is nice and respectful when you are nice and respectful. When you have one quality that is disdained heavily enough, you're thrown to the street corner. Then you're invited back when you're willing to submit.

I don't know if you are referring to me and my passion in the wikipedia thread brother, but I want to be clear that the whole wikipedia thing (rightly or wrongly) triggered my distortion toward "fighting for fairness and impartiality." Perhaps it's based on lack of understanding of other's actions, and non-acceptance of a perceived unfair, partial, and biased situation/present moment that those actions created.


It's the same distortion that gave me great passion in defending the accused as a public defender against my perception (and actuality) of police/prosecutors/judges misleading/lying about the state of the evidence or law in order to create a result they prejudged as to be the right outcome - the conviction of my client, at nearly all costs and without a concern for the integrity of the process.


It's sometimes evident in some threads where unless I feel strongly about issue myself, I'll sometimes try to balance a discussion with points for the perceived "underdog" position. In any case, this distortion still has a lot of passion within me, so perhaps it will be next on the butcher's block for distortions to be worked upon.


Regardless, don't take things personally man. We're all incarnating here to air out our own dirty laundry and we're all learning about love in the process.