Forgiveness and Polarity

[xise]

If someone beat you up, and it took you a month to forgive them, would you be gaining less polarity than if you forgave them right away?

Of if someone killed your dog, about forgiving them. I have a friend who would never forgive this action. While thoughts about this don't seem to bother me.

How close does forgiveness tie in with polarity?
If you never forgive, do you lose positive polarity?

Gain in polarity or a loss in polairty - polarization or depolarization - results from a change in how you incorporate love into your belief system and beingness. These are always somewhat complex questions because polarity ultimately turns on your beliefs about love/vibration, and less on your actions. (Though certainly actions can be a vague reflection of one's inner beliefs about love/vibration and can solidify one's understanding and beliefs on ideas about love - practicing concepts to help solidify them akin to homework).

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Using a simpler example than in the OP - a situation arises where one may forgive. Here, there are several possible sub-scenarios responses:

1) You do not forgive. The catalyst of the situation did not cause you to change your beliefs in one way or another, and your lack of forgiveness was caused by your beliefs that existed before the event and did not change during the event. There is no change in polarization here.

2) You do not forgive. However, in your desire to forgive, you seek and gain more understanding about forgiveness, and learn more about acceptance and forgiveness in the process. Though in the end you did not forgive the current situation, the catalytic situation brought you closer to eventual forgiveness, perhaps in the future, and changed your beliefs on acceptance and forgiveness at least partially. You may not even consciously realize this as you worry about not being able to forgive. Still, there is a slight gain in positive polarity as you came closer to incorporating beliefs about love and forgiveness even if it did not result in actual forgiveness in this case.

3) You do not forgive, and get more bitter and believe less in love due to the catalyst of the situation. You lose positive polarity (depolarize).

4) You forgive. The catalyst of the situation did not cause you to change your beliefs in one way or another, and your forgiveness was caused by your beliefs that existed before the event and did not change during the event. There is no change in polarization here.

5) You forgive, and catalyzed by the situation, you learn more about forgiveness in the process. You gain in positive polarization.

6) You forgive, but during the process you gain distortions as your patience concerning similar situations wears thin and you gain in bitterness, perhaps without even realizing it. (Perhaps you could call this incomplete or not full forgiveness -but forgetting semantics for a second and returning to how this situation does occur in real life). You slightly depolarize, as you actually believe less about love and forgiveness and have less patience for this lovey-dovey stuff, a change catalyzed by the situation. The change results in a slight loss of positive polarity, or depolarization.


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At the end of the day, actions, however important, are secondary to how catalyst affects your understanding and your view of universal love. (Btw, I have personally experienced all of the above scenarios.)