Whatever way you act is dependent on your origination and in-progress awareness of your pre-set path.
If you look at the earth, it takes a lot of it on itself but ends up retaliating with time as it is necessary part of growth.
If you provide love in being attacked, you provide catalyst.
If you provide retaliation in being attacked, you provide catalyst.
What does decide which is to happen is what catalyst is needed by you and what catalyst is needed by the other-self. It simply sets the required conditions for what is to happen, to happen. There is no "random".
If you look at the earth, it takes a lot of it on itself but ends up retaliating with time as it is necessary part of growth.
If you provide love in being attacked, you provide catalyst.
If you provide retaliation in being attacked, you provide catalyst.
What does decide which is to happen is what catalyst is needed by you and what catalyst is needed by the other-self. It simply sets the required conditions for what is to happen, to happen. There is no "random".