Spiritual implications/reasons for gender identity crisis

[Splash]

....My issue isn't with people who who identify as LGBT (although I am sure if I dig deep enough I will find some prejudice there) but with the seeming self righteousness and condescending attitude of those who 'fight' for social equality and fairness.  I feel that some people wear it is a badge and are scathing and belittling to those who don't share the same views or are perhaps not as educated, which is rather hypocritical and flies right in the face of social justice.  

I almost feel as though I need to be perfect and totally accepting and loving towards everyone in order to have any real value and worthiness.  But once again, I am sure this ties back to my own insecurities and low self esteem. 

Thanks Splash, fellow Aussie 

oh yes... most definitely I get what you mean here... self righteous and condescending attitudes are unpleasant from any person of any perspective... occurs when a person feels zealous about an issue of any ideology/belief/feeling...

At times I've known or house shared with people with opinions/beliefs that I very much agreed with (feminism (ie: equality), anti-racism, equal distribution of wealth, environment protection etc) who I basically couldn't have any sort of dialogue with because they were too intense, bigoted, hateful, angry, self-righteous... basically impossible to have a conversation with; let alone a friendship.

Some of my worst interactions have been with people with almost identical philosophies to my own...

I have known 'left wing liberals*' (aka - "STO") who hold similar views to me - who I can't stand being anywhere near... and who possibly (I'd add), are actually just as STS as many hardcore fascists (etc)

(*this isn't my experience of the majority though....)

re: your comment about self esteem, that's complex... but I find that the more I unconditionally love myself, the more my feelings of love for others, regardless of whether I 'like' them, or relate to who they are.. become automatic - unforced...

"I don’t let go of my thoughts—I meet them with understanding. Then they let go of me."

~ Byron Katie