How we make 'others' feel

[Plenum]

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So I mean, if you want to know the effects you have on others, let them speak for themselves, in a spontaneous way.

I have no way of stopping anyone in this forum community from 'speaking' for themselves so I'm unclear what is meant by this statement.

actually, that was a bit of a confused statement on my part, so I can understand the quizzical response

I didn't have the forum in my mind when I was typing that ... my mind was on an email that I had received a few hours before I posted that reply to your thread.  It was such a nice and warm email (that I can't share here haha!), but it was just a spontaneous response to what I had shared with this person, that it just seemed relevant to the theme of "how what you did made others feel".  

but yeah, my mind was on something else, and so the stunted thought was a bit strange without any context.