How we make 'others' feel

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That seems to me that if we aren't expressing ourselves according to a certain standard of 'compassion' that we are immediately considered inconsiderate. Maybe not everybody is shaped or comfortable with this or that communication style but it seems to me that even if people try to communicate to the best of their abilities if it doesn't have the appearance of 'politeness' it is treated as 'lacking compassion', but doesnt that just create these expectant images of what 'compassionate people' communicate like?

So, on that note, how can you ever know for sure that your expression is not going to be 'taken badly'? Why assume that anybody who isn't expressing things according to your expectations of compassion is lacking in that intention?

I am just confused over the mixed views.