Honesty with a loving touch

[Jeremy]

You see how you always throw responsibility on to the other self? Communication is about two or more individuals but it seems you are more focused on just your side of it. Of course, it seems you are working to expand that.

Actually quite the contrary. I'm allowing them to see that which they are ignoring or refusing to see. I'm sure you'll say well who am I to dictate or know what they are ignoring and how is that my responsibility. My response to that is because that's exactly how I would hope that someone would respond to me. It's not that I'm trying to tell the how to think as much as responding in the way that I would expect to be interacted with. 

Again that's just you with you with you. Where is the other person in this equation? Imposing your self expectations upon them.

Actually I've been thinking about that exact subject. I can definitely see how it may be perceived as that and I can admittedly say that I come off as a know it all but honestly I'm just trying to help people see the flaw in their thinking process. You may say well how do I know it's a flaw? When I've experience it time and time again that once the person actually thinks about what I said and integrates it into their thinking,  progress occurs. The hang up is their emotional attachment to their internal biases and imbalances. This is the only hang up and I admit it's a big one. 

Like I've said earlier on,  I'm not always like this. There are plenty of times where I'm very compassionate and patient with people at work and in "real life".  When I am blunt about something,  it ultimately is for their benefit. Its much more difficult to bear the brunt of their criticism and wrath than to give them  the ol pick me up everything will be ok speech.  

I do wish to find that balance though where I can gently show the honesty but I'm at a loss as to how. The other option is to simply allow them to learn it themselves but then what is the mirror concept for if not for them to see that which they choose not to see? 

That's one of the main issues I think. I believe I'm mirroring back that which they aren't seeing. 

As for the Vulcan statement,  I definitely have feelings and emotions lol. I'm quote the softy actually when it comes to certain aspects of life. I would even go as far as saying that I act a bit feminine in my mannerisms along with enjoying lovey movies and TV shows with my girlfriend where I'll tear up like a baby 

But when it comes to interpreting catalyst and approaching a scenario where somehow I can immediately sense the potential for growth,  a sort of stoic unemotional state comes over me where I can see the situation without the emotional attachment that some see. I see a potential for progress within another self and the hope that I can assist with it. The hang up obviously is that most of the time,  they aren't ready for it. 

So the end question would be how to gauge when the appropriate time would be to approach a situation with complete honesty.