Opening the red ray

[Jade]

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I suppose I don't have a lot of work that I've done recently with red-ray sexuality, but let me draw back on my past to see what I can come up with for you....

Firstly, if you want something so badly (ie a relationship with another) I've really found nothing better than "letting go" of the idea, moving on, forgetting about it, and then letting it pop back up to surprise you. Most of my life I was a serial monogamist so I would date someone 6months-1 year+, we'd break up and I'd be devastated, and almost the instant I decided "I'm great, I'm fine, let's be single for a while!" someone else irresistible would pop up in my life that I couldn't say no to. I think the primary thing most people who desire a relationship have in common is a lack of acceptance and love for the self. If you self loathe, or constantly have a refrain in your head that you're not good at talking to women and have no luck, people pick up on that. Nobody wants to be in a relationship with someone who has low self esteem or is desperate.

Focusing on what you don't have just keeps reinforcing that status quo. I think other red-ray therapies *may* alleviate some of the sexuality issues, but that's hard to say. Wanting someone to love but being unable to find them is a tough situation to be in. Make that person your self. Self love, self acceptance, and self worth are absolutely key, though. Cultivating those in spite of the lack of sexual interaction.