09-08-2010, 08:29 PM
(This post was last modified: 09-08-2010, 08:30 PM by Questioner.)
Hang in there, my friend. You are right about all the options being available to us at all times, to play a harmonious melody or a horrendous crash. Here is the thing about the fantasy self. The Enneagram teachings explain how each of us have a fantasy of what we have to be or do. We set up these requirements and preconditions inside our own mind, supposing they are what we must achieve in order to experience infinite love. The important thing to realize is that this demand on one's self is just a fantasy. Not only can we never reach that perfection, we don't have to, and never did. Yes, to try to win over people who were harmful or neglectful, we might have to try to be superhumanly perfect. That is the fantasy, and that is what we give up. In reality, we do not have to win over the Universe to love and support our growth. That is already happening. We are already good enough. We can become free of the delusions of our own typecasting, and then choose what key to play as each new moment arises.
We can continue the conversation here if you like, or focus on encouraging you through whatever issues you have if you'd like to start a new thread. However you want to proceed is fine.
We can continue the conversation here if you like, or focus on encouraging you through whatever issues you have if you'd like to start a new thread. However you want to proceed is fine.