Hard Honesty

[Diana]

I told my ex maybe 30% of my dark side, back when I knew only so much of it.

She threw that little bit back in my face with some of the 'kindest' words anyone has ever said to me.

Really leaves a lasting impression, regarding being honest to others in the future...  The f***** up thing was she told me things about herself far worse than anything I told her and I to this day don't judge her for those things...

That's all I ever wanted in return, I figured it's best to continue on than to give up in spite.  Hopefully one day that kindness on my part will come back to me through another.

If any other ever gets the chance.

If you and your ex could cut across all expectations, and accept each other unconditionally, the outcome of the relationship would not matter in the least. All that would matter is the love. You would want her happiness and she would want yours, and that feeling would trump any nesting instinct, any attachment, any desire to possess. There may be a feeling of loss, which can be seen as a privilege (because it derives from honesty), and it should be properly accepted and grieved if needed. And together in the depths of love, caring, loss, and grief, are found the richness of life.

The most difficult part of this is that you may stand alone in your feelings, without reciprocation. But our consciousness cannot depend upon others.'