11-09-2015, 11:40 AM
Adonai, you are using the term "rape", but I think the term you mean is "negative energy transfer". If you see them as synonymous, so be it, but I believe that someone can be willing to submit to a more powerful entity. I do understand your extreme repulsion to the idea.
earth_spirit, you know why there's female hysteria about being raped? Because the statistics, which are most definitely under reported, say that 1 in 6 women in my country will be raped or be physically assaulted where the end-goal is rape. I've been raped. And not by words, but by an actual penis while I was sleeping. I've have friends who were raped. I see the statistics and the status quo where colleges suppress any sexual assault so that parents aren't afraid to send their children away. So, it's shocking for you to be so blasé about such a thing. We hardly have a "feminist hysteria rape culture" when most sexual assaults don't even get reported as crimes.
And as far as any false rape claims, yeah, they exist, and they get a lot of attention when they do. IN FACT! My husband was accused of rape by his girlfriend when he was 17! And it effectively ruined his life (wiped out his college savings, made him quit high school, put him on the sex offender registry, etc) Eventually she dropped it, but you know what? He would agree with everything I wrote and staunchly disagree with you. Because he recognizes that the rare times that a false accusation is made are just a minute fraction of all the rapes that don't go reported because too many girls are afraid of being villainized as liars or whores.
So, these are the opinions of real people who have been through the trauma that you mentioned. Nothing is so black and white. I don't blame the girl who falsely accused him, and neither does he - she was a 17 year old girl who had an abusive father who's wrath she was trying to avoid. Humans have motivations that are much more nuanced than all women being predatory towards males for their own gain.
And, I tried to read the second link you posted, but it was full of more visceral misogyny. Why? Do you think the sexes are so imbalanced that women have all the power? Do you think that it's more desirable to be a woman than a man in our society? I'm just curious about your feelings regarding these things, especially since you say you've opted out of hetereonormative relationships.
earth_spirit, you know why there's female hysteria about being raped? Because the statistics, which are most definitely under reported, say that 1 in 6 women in my country will be raped or be physically assaulted where the end-goal is rape. I've been raped. And not by words, but by an actual penis while I was sleeping. I've have friends who were raped. I see the statistics and the status quo where colleges suppress any sexual assault so that parents aren't afraid to send their children away. So, it's shocking for you to be so blasé about such a thing. We hardly have a "feminist hysteria rape culture" when most sexual assaults don't even get reported as crimes.
And as far as any false rape claims, yeah, they exist, and they get a lot of attention when they do. IN FACT! My husband was accused of rape by his girlfriend when he was 17! And it effectively ruined his life (wiped out his college savings, made him quit high school, put him on the sex offender registry, etc) Eventually she dropped it, but you know what? He would agree with everything I wrote and staunchly disagree with you. Because he recognizes that the rare times that a false accusation is made are just a minute fraction of all the rapes that don't go reported because too many girls are afraid of being villainized as liars or whores.
So, these are the opinions of real people who have been through the trauma that you mentioned. Nothing is so black and white. I don't blame the girl who falsely accused him, and neither does he - she was a 17 year old girl who had an abusive father who's wrath she was trying to avoid. Humans have motivations that are much more nuanced than all women being predatory towards males for their own gain.
And, I tried to read the second link you posted, but it was full of more visceral misogyny. Why? Do you think the sexes are so imbalanced that women have all the power? Do you think that it's more desirable to be a woman than a man in our society? I'm just curious about your feelings regarding these things, especially since you say you've opted out of hetereonormative relationships.
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