11-26-2015, 02:22 AM
(11-25-2015, 09:29 PM)earth_spirit Wrote: I think your issue is caused by your anger over a perceived lack of control rather than physical contact itself.
But we have little / no control over whatever catalyst that is imposed on us by other selves. We can only control our reactions to them.
If you don't want to indulge in such hatred and disgust, you can try to embrace humility. My apologies if that sounds patronizing, as it is only an advice that I try to apply on myself. Every now and then it helps me to not take myself so seriously, especially when people violate my personal space.
And if you can not change your disgust into acceptance, you could artificially exaggerate it instead. I figure this may sound funny or counter intuitive, but that is the point. Perhaps you can laugh at your irrational hatred and realize it is pointless.
(unless you are of STS polarity, in which case my post doesn't apply)
1. Likely
2. We can control the catalyst provided when it violates our free-will by taking action to prevent it. I prefer to be neutral but when people do it repeatedly despite requests to stop I become progressively insane.
3. Thank you but I choose to accept my hatred and disgust for what it is and try to understand and then resolve the issue rather than indulge in humility. I do not see patronization. Thank you for your honesty.
So far this is working pretty well. Getting myself to see the issue through other people's perception is helping to reframe things and reinforce relevant factors.