(12-26-2015, 12:20 PM)Bring4th_Jade Wrote: Whenever I make a post, I am fully aware of the fact that I am talking to myself. We are in a reality full of mirrors. Whenever we make a post pointing fingers or calling someone this or that, I think we need to be acutely aware that we are pointing a finger at a reflection of ourselves. The things that stand out to us as "issues" that we are dealing with outside of us are actually the issues inside of us that we are most struggling to deal with.
For instance, people like to use the whole forum as a mirror to project upon. Whenever someone says "This forum is x!" for instance, this forum is unaccepting of others, this tells me that the person who is making that proclamation is not happy with the level of acceptance that they themselves are able to offer to others. Or, a common one, "This forum doesn't have deep enough study!" - that problem, like most projections of this sort, lies within the perceived failings of the self.
Monica, I am addressing you directly because your last post up there had some mean accusations. That the people here are unspiritual and of lower consciousness, that the collective understanding of the Law of One is wrong, that people here who may consider themselves Wanderers or lightworkers are misleading themselves. I know you're saying this out of pain, but usually when we lash out from pain, again, the pain is from within. I'm not saying to turn the finger around and point it directly back at yourself and call yourself unaccepting, but to realize that these may be fears in the very least about the state of your being. I don't know either way. I just know how to take hints, and again, when one blankets the whole forum as a mirror for projection it is often a hint.
For you, Monica, it's not you or your words that people have a problem with, it's your delivery. I hope I can say that without offending you. It's a yellow/blue ray balance and I think it's a HUGE deal right now in our society - having to sacrifice our baser forms of expression for the greater peace of all. People scorn "social justice warriors" because they want discourse, on the whole, to be softer, and without negativity. Others are attached to these parts of their identity - their conviction, their passion, their humor is expressed through these means. But when others are consistently giving you the same feedback - that your self expression has a negative effect upon them - to me, that is a cue to take that feedback and utilize it. You can take the cue and use it for separation - "This is just who I am and woe be to anyone who is uncomfortable!" - or you can use it for unity, and ask yourself, "How can I use this feedback to integrate myself more into the All?" Of course, I'm not proclaiming that giving up your identity for the sake of others is what you should always do, it is an infinite and eternal balance. But, you cannot ignore the feedback of others - you must process it somehow, or it will just get louder and louder until you can't hear much of anything else.
And for everyone, some of my best advice for forum interaction is, when you are re-reading a post before submitting, to read that post as if it were someone else talking to you. Really, truly, get into that perspective and see how the post you are about to send makes you feel. Process that, and decide if that's really the energy you most desire to send out and be received. At least, that's what I try to do, and I find it very valuable.
Have the mods changed their protocol? When I was a mod, we didn't chastise members publicly. We handled moderator issues privately.
You don't seem to be acting in the capacity of moderator, so I'm wondering why you are violating forum guidelines and moderator protocol.
I realize now what is meant by my 'delivery'. It isn't rude or insulting. You all know that. I think what is bothering you about my 'delivery' is that I address comments point-by-point.
I have been courteous and have never insulted anyone. The worst offense I will admit to is a bit of sarcasm, along with a few instances of frustrated venting. Those pale in comparison to the onslaught of direct insults directed at Diana and me over the years.
Everyone knows that there aren't any good arguments in favor of meat-eating, at least Not in a modern society. When I state my views point-by-point, and respond to others' comments point-by-point, the meat-eaters simply don't have much they can offer to counter my points. I don't get the credit for that. It's just that the vegan always wins on all counts, whether it's in regards to health, ethics, or the environment. That's because veganism addresses some very big problems, with clear solutions, in regards to health, ending unnecessary cruelty, and reducing wanton destruction of the environment. There's simply NO good argument in favor of supporting the meat-dairy industry! That's just the way it is.
When meat-eaters are confronted with irrefutable facts about the cruelty to animals and the destruction of the environment, and realize that they can't refute those points, they wire it up in their minds that I have 'bullied' them. I have done nothing of the sort. I have simply stated my points.
I suspect that what they really mean is that they feel intimidated by someone who successfully refutes their attempts to justify cruelty.
That isn't my fault. Neither is it Diana's. We are entitled to our views. We aren't responsible for someone feeling intimidated by us, just for being who we are.
This concludes my response to you. I do NOT consent to additional discussion about me personally. That is a violation of the guidelines and I shouldn't have to explain that to a moderator. I have pm'ed the other mods about your inappropriate handling of an apparent grievance with me.
Plenum: Since you 'liked' Jade's public attempt to chastise me, I can only wonder how much things have changed, in regards to how the mods operate now. If you are now publicly chastising members, then that reinforces my decision to leave.
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