01-04-2016, 05:58 PM
I can't really think of a better subject line but it's not necessarily purposefully selective but at times, I find it difficult to empathize with an other self when my own ways of thinking differ on a particular situation.
For instance, my mother is having surgery Thursday and she would like all of us to be there because she's scared. Regardless of my spiritual beliefs, I've never been one to ask for a shoulder to lean on or emotional support. Not sure why exactly, I just figured it's my issue so why involve others.
Now I understand the need to be there for her because she is scared but not the reason as to why she needs others there for support. I'm ok with being there for her but it's more forced acceptance because, well, she's done so much for me, its the least that I can do. But the reasoning for it is where I'm having an issue finding empathy for it.
To me, I'm good with myself. I'm good with dying. The worst part of dying would be the impact to others whom don't share our incredible realization of what awaits us. Their attachment to this illusion is understandable given their forgetting.
But to put myself in her shoes or anyone's shoes who needs a pep talk, a pat on the back, or just some type of emotional reinforcment of a situation boggles me.
For instance, my mother is having surgery Thursday and she would like all of us to be there because she's scared. Regardless of my spiritual beliefs, I've never been one to ask for a shoulder to lean on or emotional support. Not sure why exactly, I just figured it's my issue so why involve others.
Now I understand the need to be there for her because she is scared but not the reason as to why she needs others there for support. I'm ok with being there for her but it's more forced acceptance because, well, she's done so much for me, its the least that I can do. But the reasoning for it is where I'm having an issue finding empathy for it.
To me, I'm good with myself. I'm good with dying. The worst part of dying would be the impact to others whom don't share our incredible realization of what awaits us. Their attachment to this illusion is understandable given their forgetting.
But to put myself in her shoes or anyone's shoes who needs a pep talk, a pat on the back, or just some type of emotional reinforcment of a situation boggles me.