Selective empathy

[Night Owl]

Also, I think you misunderstood or misinterpreted the reasons for my answer about your girlfriend. I'm saying that because you ask why is it of concerns to you. To understand why it is of concerns to you you must understand why it is happening. It was about what it would feel like if someone that you loved would react like you do with the love you give them. It could be anybody else that you love. Showing you the opposite mirror for the sake of understanding what it feels like when the roles are exchanged. If you do not like how it feels, why would you decide to make someone else feel like that? Sure you can not care as you certainly have 0% responsability of how people interpret your words and actions but you have 100% responsability for what those actions are and how you feel about them and how you feel about yourself.


In fact seeing how we are similar on this perspective I see this as an opportunity to process that catalyst for myself as I tend to close my heart too often. But your relation with your mother seems complicated. The difference between our two situations is that I would simply have no resistance to attend because I would like her to feel loved. Not because she is my mother but because anybody deserves love and this situation is a given opportunity so I'll just take it.


With an open heart, one could ask then why wouldn't it be of his concerns? Familly is a good way of dealing with self problems . It's like practise before real work. The relation one has with his familly members is a reflection of how one reacts towards himself in different situations. I'm not saying you are a close hearted person. I'm saying some situations will make you close your heart and your mother is a catalyst for finding out what it is. You liked my previous answer about finding a reason to be there. That would be a good reason for me to go. To find out why I could have also closed my heart to this catalyst.


You said I fail to see all the help this race needs and the help crying out. Actually I think I am responding to it right now while it is asked in front of me. I could also tell you, why is it of any concerns to me that you can't deal with this situation. Why is it of any concerns to me? Because I can relate to your feelings. Because not being in your situation makes it easier for me to find different perspectives. Problems and help just doesn't always come in the forms that one expect. Problems cannot be solved by the same paths they are created. I can tell you everything that you want to hear and everything that you don't if it can widen your perspective but in the end you are the only one who gets to choose what to do.

I wish you peace brother! May you find the necessary strenght within yourself to do what you and only you think is right for yourself and those you care about whoever they are.