Transexualism, Polarity, and How does this work?

[Aion]

By shifting between the energies, I mean that one should be comfortable with both the male and female energies within, or else, inherently, they are rejecting the other. If one over-identifies with one gender's roles, it thereby implies an imbalance in the yellow ray because gender identity itself is especially polarizing for a reason. I specifically am referring to the roles of gender as defined by society - not necessarily just the experience of masculine and feminine energies. If someone says, "I'm a girl, so I can't like (insert x "manly" thing)" or "I'm a man, I don't have feelings" - these are the identities that I am talking about. I'm not talking about a woman enjoying buying shoes and collecting purses, I'm talking about a women refusing to indulge in anything that she would define as "not womanly" (or vice versa). I think the problem begins when we start saying "This is for men, this is for women" and continuing to separate things from there - which is something society/advertising/media/etc does in force. When people buy into that, it creates blockage/imbalance, because it further separates us.

Maybe my pop spirituality perspective is being influenced because I'm currently reading Seth Speaks. There is at least a full chapter on balancing the anima/animus so that one doesn't become too attached to the gender of their current incarnation (or get stuck on a previous one). I don't think there's a general "perfect balance", I think obviously we all have blockages. Everything is a distortion of perfect balance. It's just important to be aware of what is causing the blockages, if you can be. It's my personal opinion that if one gets overly attached to the societal defined gender roles of one sex, that there is likely a yellow-ray blockage (and it's probably deeply rooted). I'm not pointing fingers at anyone even, I find most people here pretty androgynous. But I think if we take it to the extreme, say, a transsexual male who has total sex reassignment surgery and changes their physical appearance to be more "female" (long hair, makeup, breasts, female clothing) and feels like they can't go out in public without being "done up" in a feminine way, that it is definitely caused by a blockage and over-identification with a gender. But, I think the same can apply to cisgendered females who think that they can't let their face be seen in public without make up - I mean no offense to anyone who wears makeup, because I used to be the same way, but I think there is a rejection of self that causes one to identify with something outside of themselves to strongly (the face madeup as the only presentable face).

I don't think we disagree, Aion. I think we both think that people should decide for themselves who they want to be and how they want to express themselves. But I think it's really important to remove all the implanted ideas of who we want to be to really get to our true selves. The superficial gender roles as defined by society are not our true selves - but the analogue can definitely be found.

That explains more clearly what you mean, thank you. I do agree, but I would ask, how can someone external be able to tell whether someone is doing something because they genuinely choose it and feel it is their true self or because they are 'caught up' in whatever thoughts have been influential to them? What is the difference there? Are any thoughts of ours really divorced from the collective?