05-03-2016, 06:45 PM
(05-03-2016, 06:31 PM)Glow Wrote: Though easier said than done I think it's another chance to learn empathy and forgiveness for who/where he is at this moment.
If you look at him as another self it's not to make excuses but was he depressed after giving up his job? Was this an attempt to either destroy what he no longer felt worthy of(his family) or an attempt to feel like a man after giving up what most of society uses to classify a persons worth(material earning power).
He wasn't depressed, at least to my knowledge. He was vacationing in the dominican republic and liked the attention that some teenager was giving him so he decided to spend 4 days with her and forget about us.
If he can no longer feel empathy for you is be able to feel it for himself?
I'm not trying to turn this into "poor him" but you asked what to do with this catalyst so I am trying to see a growth opportunity here.
You know, I do know he has been very hard on himself since it has all come out. I have told him he might have a blockage and he seems to think he has always been this way since he was a kid. I think he probably does have a heart blockage though.
If there was once great love and he did ruin it for some reason, can you be the big person extend him true love, forgiveness and trust that he is worth trying again for? If he is depressed over his actions and self sabotaging this may not be a throw away situation, just a chance to step further out of the material into love. (Big hugs) hope that wasn't offensive I meant it as insite from a loving place for you and your family.
I appreciate it. <3