(05-16-2016, 02:17 PM)Spaced Wrote:(05-15-2016, 05:56 PM)Minyatur Wrote: The relationship did require courting, which may be why it was not meant to be. To me, someone who would truly love me would not require to be courted.
So what, you want a relationship where you make eye contact with someone and they instantly know everything about the totality of your being and vice versa and you don't even need to exchange a single word because your both swept away with love? Good luck.
Justlikeyou's metaphor of the musical instrument is good too. You can't just pick up a guitar and know how to play.
Well not making eye contact, but you can get to know someone without courting.
Most people make friends because they meet people they resonate with and get to know them without having to enter a mindset of needing to win them over. Most friends I've had came to me because they found me intetesting and I never tried to gain friends myself. A relationship can be that but where it develops love feelings.
I don't think you get in touch with a guitar in a way that you act specifically to make it fall for you, which is what courting is.