05-16-2016, 08:55 PM
Allright I took a little step back about this to take the time to make this clear inside of me and make sure that my perspective doesn't get distorted.
I think I understand really well what courting is. Given that it may be associated with really different behaviors it may never be found in any absolute descriptions or terms. However what I think people have in mind when they think about courting is to reach to the other through flattering behaviors in an attempt that it will charm and attract the opposite energy. Those behaviors can go in a wide range of variety from telling them compliments to playing games to or to get some physical contact in order to bring intimacy. Would you agree that things like that are flattering the other's ego? I do agree it is not an absolute association but I do think at the basis of things that this is the effect that such behavior has. If you think it does not then tell me how do you think you can court someone without flattering the ego because hontesly I have not witnessed such a thing and have witnessed a whole lot of courting in my working environnement.
I think the reasons I don't relate to the analogy has a lot to do with what I am looking for in a relationship and also what is the process of intuition at the very basis of things. I have come to the conclusion that people's intuition work in so many different ways that it is obsolete to categorize it as a single image because different people have different paths therefore they program themselves different games with their veil and the interaction with their high priestest has as much variety as there are different ways of having a relationship with someone. My intuition seems to be like the flow of a river in which I can choose to walk on my own and learn about myself from the resistance created by my self or I can let myself flow with the stream of my intuition and it will lead me to learn about others and about a universe of different things to love and understand. But there is nothing to ''conquer'' other than myself and what I already am but resisting to be through the veil.
That being said, if I focus on the way two people get to know each other in the physical reality because you mentioned it, I think it is impossible for two attracted energies not to change for the opposites because like you said yourself, both partners will want to (inner) change themselves. And that's what I dislike about it. If I am attracted to somenone it is because it feels complementary, it is because we feel perfect for each other like you said yourself. But I don't want what I already think is perfect to change, and I guess it would be the same for the one that I attract. That is also why I remain alone at the moment because that allows me to change because being with an energy signature like mine the opposite energy would not want me to change either. By simply allowing what I love to be, it will grow without any imprints of my own distortions. And by that I don't mean stare at the eyes of the other endlessly being swept away by love. I mean that I let the universe unfold like polarity: Things that are similar or opposite will attract what they need to be similar and opposite. When courting, you are actually '' kind of '' hunting and so you are projecting your self on the other. When that happens, what you get is a reflection of yourself and not a reflection of the other.
I agree that two people may get to know each other the way you describe it. But I think the informations that are displayed in this way of doing it are superficial, at least to me. I don't think because you know someone's interests and family and what is their job that you really know them. Not that those are the only displayable informations but that is mostly what you get when talking with people in day to day life, it is somekind of a facebook profil that is being displayed as a mask. If I imprint some of my distortions on somebody by courting them then I will only get a personalised reflection of mine from the other. I personally want to see the real thing without it being filtered by my energy because that is what I am here to love. I know this because I am absolutely certain that someone who seeks to know me be by those informations will not know me at all and this is what I get asked by people who try to know me. It is then easy for me to assume that there is much more under the mask of anybody else to know than there is on the mask. At some point we could define that mask as the ego, or the ego's reflection maybe. What I don't like about courting is that you get to valorize the mask of both persons in an unatural way. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that courting includes some kind of testing of the other which involves some kind of expectations of the outcome and therefore it makes it conditional to a positive response and also a test of yourself seeking for self valorisation through the other's eyes. I think seeing others without including self valorisation, you get to truly know who you are facing no matter what. Just like looking at yourself without the imprints of others you get a much clearer picture of yourself.
If I look at the definition of courting it definitely has something to do with trying to gain something. You are not wrong that courting means giving attention to the other but that is only one side of the coin. I'd say that is the conscious part of the process. The unconscious part of the process being that you are trying to win the attention of the other and this is where courting becomes a need. I really think that if you have to court someone to get close to them, then you have at best met a relationship where one needs the other to grow. But that is far from being the more consonant relationship one can hope to build. There is nothing wrong with courting in itself but I'd say this is exactly where it really becomes a personal thing as to what you are actually doing here on earth with your incarnation. Maybe someone who does a lot of courting is seeking to understand what attracts them about others. But personally I would not find this kind of relationship worthwhile because I know deep inside that there is something better awaiting and I have experienced it. There are people whose energy is so consonant with yours that it is worth being alone no matter what. Courting is the easy way out of loneliness. Being with someone who unconditonally loves you without courting someday makes loneliness an eternal bliss among a mountain of confused courting people looking for something to get. Maybe I am the odd one but I am not looking to get, gain or win anything out of a relationship. I seek love without resistance. Courting implies resistance. If there is resistance, there is not consonance.
So while the analogy with the archetype is not false, it is like minyatur said, only a single focus while the archetype can encompass a lot more than what is implied by this image association.
I think I understand really well what courting is. Given that it may be associated with really different behaviors it may never be found in any absolute descriptions or terms. However what I think people have in mind when they think about courting is to reach to the other through flattering behaviors in an attempt that it will charm and attract the opposite energy. Those behaviors can go in a wide range of variety from telling them compliments to playing games to or to get some physical contact in order to bring intimacy. Would you agree that things like that are flattering the other's ego? I do agree it is not an absolute association but I do think at the basis of things that this is the effect that such behavior has. If you think it does not then tell me how do you think you can court someone without flattering the ego because hontesly I have not witnessed such a thing and have witnessed a whole lot of courting in my working environnement.
I think the reasons I don't relate to the analogy has a lot to do with what I am looking for in a relationship and also what is the process of intuition at the very basis of things. I have come to the conclusion that people's intuition work in so many different ways that it is obsolete to categorize it as a single image because different people have different paths therefore they program themselves different games with their veil and the interaction with their high priestest has as much variety as there are different ways of having a relationship with someone. My intuition seems to be like the flow of a river in which I can choose to walk on my own and learn about myself from the resistance created by my self or I can let myself flow with the stream of my intuition and it will lead me to learn about others and about a universe of different things to love and understand. But there is nothing to ''conquer'' other than myself and what I already am but resisting to be through the veil.
That being said, if I focus on the way two people get to know each other in the physical reality because you mentioned it, I think it is impossible for two attracted energies not to change for the opposites because like you said yourself, both partners will want to (inner) change themselves. And that's what I dislike about it. If I am attracted to somenone it is because it feels complementary, it is because we feel perfect for each other like you said yourself. But I don't want what I already think is perfect to change, and I guess it would be the same for the one that I attract. That is also why I remain alone at the moment because that allows me to change because being with an energy signature like mine the opposite energy would not want me to change either. By simply allowing what I love to be, it will grow without any imprints of my own distortions. And by that I don't mean stare at the eyes of the other endlessly being swept away by love. I mean that I let the universe unfold like polarity: Things that are similar or opposite will attract what they need to be similar and opposite. When courting, you are actually '' kind of '' hunting and so you are projecting your self on the other. When that happens, what you get is a reflection of yourself and not a reflection of the other.
I agree that two people may get to know each other the way you describe it. But I think the informations that are displayed in this way of doing it are superficial, at least to me. I don't think because you know someone's interests and family and what is their job that you really know them. Not that those are the only displayable informations but that is mostly what you get when talking with people in day to day life, it is somekind of a facebook profil that is being displayed as a mask. If I imprint some of my distortions on somebody by courting them then I will only get a personalised reflection of mine from the other. I personally want to see the real thing without it being filtered by my energy because that is what I am here to love. I know this because I am absolutely certain that someone who seeks to know me be by those informations will not know me at all and this is what I get asked by people who try to know me. It is then easy for me to assume that there is much more under the mask of anybody else to know than there is on the mask. At some point we could define that mask as the ego, or the ego's reflection maybe. What I don't like about courting is that you get to valorize the mask of both persons in an unatural way. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that courting includes some kind of testing of the other which involves some kind of expectations of the outcome and therefore it makes it conditional to a positive response and also a test of yourself seeking for self valorisation through the other's eyes. I think seeing others without including self valorisation, you get to truly know who you are facing no matter what. Just like looking at yourself without the imprints of others you get a much clearer picture of yourself.
If I look at the definition of courting it definitely has something to do with trying to gain something. You are not wrong that courting means giving attention to the other but that is only one side of the coin. I'd say that is the conscious part of the process. The unconscious part of the process being that you are trying to win the attention of the other and this is where courting becomes a need. I really think that if you have to court someone to get close to them, then you have at best met a relationship where one needs the other to grow. But that is far from being the more consonant relationship one can hope to build. There is nothing wrong with courting in itself but I'd say this is exactly where it really becomes a personal thing as to what you are actually doing here on earth with your incarnation. Maybe someone who does a lot of courting is seeking to understand what attracts them about others. But personally I would not find this kind of relationship worthwhile because I know deep inside that there is something better awaiting and I have experienced it. There are people whose energy is so consonant with yours that it is worth being alone no matter what. Courting is the easy way out of loneliness. Being with someone who unconditonally loves you without courting someday makes loneliness an eternal bliss among a mountain of confused courting people looking for something to get. Maybe I am the odd one but I am not looking to get, gain or win anything out of a relationship. I seek love without resistance. Courting implies resistance. If there is resistance, there is not consonance.
So while the analogy with the archetype is not false, it is like minyatur said, only a single focus while the archetype can encompass a lot more than what is implied by this image association.