Night Owl Wrote:But I think the best way to know if a service is really a service is whether it increases or decreases separation.
I do think in the case of a starving person, you are severely intellectualising a very natural, spontaneous human reaction. It is as simple as putting yourself in someone else's shoes, which isn't even on the cognitive level, it just happens, it's called empathy. They're starving, go get a sandwich quickly, they're cold, go get a blanket quickly... For me personally, the challenge of how to serve don't fall into these "basic human needs" categories, the service to be performed is quite evident in such a situation. Service is a challenge when someone suffers because of their deeply ingrained/internalised distortions/biases. Or their viewpoint is quite limited, and you can't just bulldoze in there with you expanded perception.
Most people respond to love, friendship and goodwill first, before they open up anyway. They can feel love, and love opens up the way. Which bring us back to courting.