Session 31 - As a Gay Man, I think Ra's take on Homosexuality is idiotic

[Chandlersdad]

I also try hard to reduce my distortions. But I am too reactionary. I let things get to me like right away. I don't usually stew in anger or anything like that. I'm over it pretty quickly.

Responding automatically happens so fast that we may not even see it. One idea is to take a piece of jewelry like a ring or something like that, and turn it into a reminder to PAUSE before reacting. Our minds seem to forget everything spiritual (the first reptilian response of the brain) when provoked. It takes something like a symbol to break the pattern before it happens. This isn't easy. There are still times when I respond to something with anger, only to immediately turn around, see what I just did, and then regret it. Breaking down that neural pathway (which can be really strong after a life time) takes work. That is why I use items to remind me.