Session 31 - As a Gay Man, I think Ra's take on Homosexuality is idiotic

[Chandlersdad]

My internal homophobia comes from primarily my parents.

They found I was involved with an older man when I was a teenager. Sent him to jail. I was emancipated. On the way down the elevator in the courthouse after judge emancipated me, my dad said "Don't come to us when you are dying of AIDS"

In the fifteen years since then we have seen each other a handful of times and I maybe get and email from them once every couple of months. I have not really forgiven them for the ordeal. But it feels like the ball is in my court now. I have come to terms with the fact that I don't have to rebuild the relationship in order to progress.

No you don't have to rebuild the relationship. But I suspect Ra would say that in order to progress you must learn to forgive them and yourself for any lingering internalized homophobia. It can be very hard to forgive people who put a bronze age superstition (Christianity's hatred for gay people) above their own children. But this is a major CATALYST for evolution. Again, it does not mean you have to contact them in any way.