Catalyst when you least expect it - story of life

[Billy]

I just had a real moment of affection for you Chandlersdad, after reading your post.  Your openness is admirable and I aspire for the same.  Thanks for sharing.  What insight dissipated the emotional charge for you?  I've often felt hurt in the past when I thought that people didn't understand me.  A perspective that I have been working with is that 'I don't have the right to expect other people to understand me, I mean how often do I understand others?  How many times have I hurt others by not showing them the understanding that they wanted me to show?  It is unreasonable to expect people to always understand you and is a recipe for resentment and sadness.  The best thing we can do is understand ourselves and realize that what we desire is within us.'