09-03-2016, 01:30 PM
(09-03-2016, 03:41 AM)Billy Wrote: I just had a real moment of affection for you Chandlersdad, after reading your post. Your openness is admirable and I aspire for the same. Thanks for sharing. What insight dissipated the emotional charge for you? I've often felt hurt in the past when I thought that people didn't understand me. A perspective that I have been working with is that 'I don't have the right to expect other people to understand me, I mean how often do I understand others? How many times have I hurt others by not showing them the understanding that they wanted me to show? It is unreasonable to expect people to always understand you and is a recipe for resentment and sadness. The best thing we can do is understand ourselves and realize that what we desire is within us.'
You seem to have a firm grasp of the truth by empathizing with others, which allows you to see how treating others this way and being treated that way is just one of the delightful quirky aspects of the 3rd Density humanhood.
I didn't have an insight so much as intensify the emotion caused by the catalyst. I got this from the Ra Law of One. For me, this often leads to 2 results (we are each unique):
1. The emotion intensifies so much that my comical mind begins to parody the emotion by visualizing myself in some melo-dramatic demonstration of the emotion, e.g., if I feel intense anger, I reach a point where I suddenly see myself as Samson (his hot body but my head) pulling down the temple. This usually helps dissipate the emotion.
2. When the emotion is exagerated (only in the mind) this can lead to a breaking point (like a zit of anger popping!!) and I begin to feel the underlying hurt that caused the anger and a sense of love for myself and the other person. I might again visualize us as two people in a field of flowers, and we are running toward each other with arms open. Then we embrace, lose our balance and fall into the flowers where I begin to sneeze (allergies).