Session 31 - As a Gay Man, I think Ra's take on Homosexuality is idiotic

[Chandlersdad]

 
Many people believe they should be reactive because they say they do not want to repress their feelings.

I keep this quote in mind all the time.  It is very important to me.

Ra: "...There is, however, some polarization towards positive if the cause of this repression is consideration for other-selves..."

To me, not reacting implicitly means not reacting negatively.  I agree 100% that repression is not the best use of catalyst.

For someone polarizing positively, the best use of a catalyst is a positive reaction, and if one is not yet capable of a positive reaction in a given context then not reacting is better than reacting negatively.

This is what is meant by Ra in the above quote.
 

Well, the best psychotherapy would say that telling people that their reaction must be positive or there should be no reaction is just another way of saying you should repress your actual negative reaction. I did this for decades and had a nervous breakdown in 2010. What is advised is to get in touch totally with your Observer Self. Realize that you are not your thoughts nor your emotions. They flow through you. The Observer can see a reaction of anger and ponder it. The human being does not have to externally manifest this anger, realizing that it would be inappropriate in the situation. At that point, the human then is ready (via the Observer Self) to work with the anger via the exercises provided by Ra and on this forum. RA was stating the ideal situation. But what I find is that a lot of humans don't want to go through the work to get there. Instead, they simply jump there by repressing their reactions that do not fit the Ra ideal. We are meant to acknowledge our reactions and then work with them. If we find we have a reaction that we cannot control, that is time for an external coach/therapist to help us.

P.S. I am gay, for those wondering.