Session 31 - As a Gay Man, I think Ra's take on Homosexuality is idiotic

[Patrick]

...telling people that their reaction must be positive or there should be no reaction is just another way of saying you should repress your actual negative reaction...

If the negative reaction would be at the expanse of another self, then yes.

But you are not asked to repress any feelings here.  I agree with the rest of your post.  These things are not easy to convey in any case.